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Women are Drawn to Men They Can’t Control
Women are often attracted to men they can’t control. The allure lies in the challenge and the chaos it brings, fulfilling a sexual fantasy of “taming the beast.” This is why many women are so intensely attracted to “bad guys,” who tend to score low on agreeableness. Bad boys don’t conform, and their unpredictability makes them irresistible to women.
Women don’t want a pushover as a partner. They desire someone who they can look up to—someone with strength and authority, not someone who is constantly at their beck and call. This is the secret to long-lasting relationships: women will only walk away from relationships they can control because they get bored of being in control. Remember, women have a natural penchant for drama, and a relationship without excitement becomes dull.
A relationship can’t be dramatic if the man is always pacific and patronizing. This makes her relax, as she already holds the reins of control. But despite her attempts to fight for control early in the relationship, it’s not in her nature to stay in charge. So, don’t let her win. Be uncompromising and untamable—this is what makes you truly attractive to her. She wants to be dominated by the loving authority of a masculine man.
The general rule of thumb is simple: if she can control or change you, then she won’t desire you anymore. You lose your beauty and charm when you become just another guy simping in her DMs.
With that in mind, let’s explore some rules that bad boys break to get the attention of the top 10% of women.
1. Trying to Make Yourself More Appealing
Many men believe they must change or do something special to attract women. They fall over themselves trying to impress them. Bad boys, on the other hand, are authentic—they don’t try to be anyone else. Women can sense deception and know when a man is pretending. To impress a woman, simply be yourself.
2. Hiding Unusual Traits
Many men hide their unique traits because they fear losing the girl. This is a mistake. A true man embraces his authenticity, even if it means having unusual interests. Whether it’s drawing, acting, or reading manga, don’t be ashamed of who you are. Women respect men who have the courage to be themselves, as opposed to those who try to blend in with zero personality. However, this doesn’t mean indulging in lazy habits. There’s a difference between being unique and being addicted to distractions.
3. Asking for Permission
In today’s world, some advice suggests always asking for permission when pursuing a woman. This is good advice for nerds or simps, but bad boys don’t follow this rule. They take what they want out of life—whether it’s money, power, or a woman. They don’t ask for permission; they make it happen. Bad boys know how to read the room and confidently take what they desire. This dominance and self-assurance are incredibly attractive to women.
4. Befriending Her First
Many people recommend befriending a girl before revealing your feelings. However, this can backfire. If you delay expressing your intentions, she might only see you as a friend, dismissing you as a potential romantic interest. Additionally, pretending to be a friend with ulterior motives is deceptive. Always be upfront about your intentions to avoid wasting time.
5. Putting Women on a Pedestal
Many men, often referred to as simps, treat women like queens regardless of whether they deserve it. The truth is, many women are showered with attention and affection from multiple men. When you place a woman on a pedestal, you only blend in with every other guy. Instead, treat her like you would treat anyone else, and you’ll stand out in a positive way.
6. Waiting for the Right Time
Timing is important, but waiting for the perfect moment to make your move can lead to missed opportunities. If it feels like the right time, don’t hesitate. Waiting too long to act can cause you to lose your chance, so trust your instincts and go for it when it feels right.
7. Escaping a Boring Reality
A bad boy offers an escape from the mundane, providing the excitement and adventure that many women crave. They live on the edge, pushing boundaries and seeking new thrills. This adrenaline rush is what makes them so appealing. Women are drawn to men who offer them a break from the ordinary and the predictable.
8. Being Nice to Everyone
There’s a difference between being polite and being overly nice. While kindness is a virtue, being excessively nice to everyone can make you appear fake. If you’re always trying to please others, it will be noticed. Women are keen observers, and they’ll sense when you’re being disingenuous. Don’t pretend to like people you don’t, or you risk losing her respect.
9. Bad Boys Don’t Tolerate Everything in Women
Bad boys don’t tolerate everything from a woman, especially when there’s a red flag or behavior they don’t like. Just because a woman is beautiful doesn’t mean she gets a free pass.
